by Ashraf Nisfudin
Getting to know one another and experiencing togetherness and unity are two of the things that make life on this planet so special and worth while.
Us humans are an ultra-social species and our bodies tend to work better when we are around others and not alone.
"Being Lonely" has been linked to worsen physical and emotional health, outcomes and poorer well-being.
The lack of social support may affect our potential for experiencing happiness.
Psychologically, the "no-social-support-system" is a source of chronic stress - taking a major toll on us, both on mind and body.
Basically, the lonelier you are, the higher the risk of cardiovascular disease and higher levels of stress hormone cortisol.
In a 2015 review article published by a group of Finnish neuroscientists in a journal, Neuron suggests that our brain actually function better when we’re interacting with others and experiencing togetherness.
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Social interactions may possibly be the most complex function that humans (...and their brain) are able to perform -- yet the interaction typically appears surprisingly easy.
Research proves that listening and participating in a two-way conversation is actually less mentally demanding for the brain than giving or listening to a monologue.
Other studies have shown that children learn better by interacting with others, rather than just observing and listening.
[**hint-hint at parents who home-school their kids]
Study shows that having fewer social ties is associated with MORE heart disease, cancer and impaired immune function; as well as worse recovery duration when it comes to these health problems.
A recent review of studies concluded that on average, having stronger social ties increases the likelihood of an individual's overall survival by as much as 50%!!!
The social baseline theory suggests that the human brain expects access to social relationships because those connections help lower potential risks one might face and lessen the amount of effort needed when it comes to a variety of scenarios.
For example, if the objective is to build a shelter, there is literally less work for each individual if two people were to do it.
Do you have an associate that sometimes would drive you crazy, cause it would usually be a family member or an annoying friend.
When we’re around people who drive us crazy, WE GROW.
It's good when relationships challenge us as it can help us extend our status quo and how we perceive the world.
Those stiff and uneasy moments are truly well-thought of as opportunities for growth and transformation -- which can ultimately be a more poignant source of sustainable happiness.
Having a diverse variety of emotional experiences (including feeling sad, angry, anxious or irritated) expand our capacity to feel good.
The exception is when a relationships negativity outshines its benefits.
Be cautious if a relationship encourages bad habits or causes distress. You know what they say, "you are the average of the five people you spend most time with."
So, choose wisely.